Vacation Time

It's been over four years now that TJ and I have taken a trip anywhere, so we decided to head south one last time. Once the little ones come along it might be a while before we can take a trip on our own again. It will be nice to have this time with him....just relaxing in the sun. I can almost feel the heat now... hee hee.

Big Surprise

While I was working today TJ called me to come to his office right away. I asked if everything was okay as he didn't seem like himself. He said he was okay and he just wanted to see me as soon as he could. As I was in a meeting and couldn't get out for another 1/2 hour I was dying to know what the problem was. I will say that it was the fastest drive I have ever taken...lol Once I got there TJ asked me to close over the door and sit down. I was getting worried, so worried that I could now feel the lump in my throat throbbing. He tells me that he's mother has decided to give us land over in Kinlock for us to build a house on PLUS...wait for it.....is going to pay for our Adoption!!!!!!!! I just stood there with my mouth on the floor. I couldn't help but cry over the thought of this most amazing gift that she's offering us. Within the same breathe I kept saying that it was too much, but TJ said that he told her the same thing and she wants to do it anyways. So here she's giving us land and paying for our adoption. Wow, what a gift.

Here we have my mother who has offered to look after our children half days to help us out, and now TJ's mother is going to pay for our adoption. I can't explain how greatful we are to our mothers. We are so lucky to have them supporting us during our journey to our family. Words can't explain how much this support means to TJ and I. I just can't say it enough....Thank you!

Why International and not locally???

I'm not sure if all of you are as sick as we are for answering why we have chosen to do international over locally. I know that it's a lack of knowledge on their part and I shouldn't let it get to me. It's just hard not saying what you would really like to answer. I understand that adoption isn't for everyone. I respect their decision, so why don't others respect ours. I don't think that we would be asked why we are adopting if it was locally. Why does it matter where the child came from, but rather that we are taking a child in to our lives. It's not my fault that to adopt from our own country is too hard. Why should I have to wait 8 years to be a mother. Not to mention the last 4 1/2 years that I've already waited. I just want to be a mom and adopting internationally is going to make that happen for me.

I'm glad that we have the support of our family and friends to help us along the way to our children. It helps knowing that there's someone in our corner when we feel that the world is against you. Thanks for being there for us.

Wondering about siblings now...

We had wondered about adopting siblings but we were unsure of the extra cost. Let alone if there are standards we have to meet, so we have put it on the back burner till now. I called Kids Link to see what the cost would be and if there were any standards that we had to meet. I guess it looks like we are okay to adopt siblings as long as our province approves it. I'm not sure what they look for when adopting siblings but hope to find out soon. I have left word that I would like to speak to someone about it, but the government is always so slow getting back to you.

When I spoke to TJ this morning about the cost to my surprise he said that we should go for it. I was so over joyed that he was on board with idea. We are so lucky that we have a huge support from family and friends to help us out. My mother has offered to look after our children half days so they don't have to be in day care for the full day. As many of you know that day care is a huge cost for a family. So I feel very lucky that we are going to have her help. My bestfriend has always told me that he would get our crib for our child. Lucky for us he's parents have lots of kid toys and play pens that they used for his sister's children that just out grown them.

I feel that we are on our way to having the family that we always wanted. I get choked up just thinking about our future. It's been a long journey to making this happen. TJ has said to me that he's just so happy to be moving forward and I would have to say that I feel the same. We have both have felt so stuck for so long that it feel like a huge relief off our shoulders to be getting off the infertility ride and move on with our lives. I can't wait for what the future holds for us.

We meet our Social worker today.

I was surprised that I wasn't nervous as I thought I would have been. As the meeting went on we discussed the usual stuff as how old are you , when were you married, and where do you work...yadda yadda yadda. She then went on to explain the different types of adoption and the positives and negatives of each. One thing that did surprise me is that she said that 50% of the cases she worked on the birthmother decided to keep the baby. That is too high for me. I could not imagine that we would finally be parents to only then loose the baby in the end. I wouldn't be able to handle it. I think that is why I have been drawn to International adoption. We were left to do some homework for her before we can book our next appointment. The basic things an outline of questions of who we are as individuals and about our marriage. Some police checks, reffernce letters and photocopys of our birth certificates that will be passed on to our province for approval. So really nothing major to report just yet, but I will keep you posted.

P.S I love you

I went to this movie this evening and it touched me so much that I had to write about it. I must say that every woman should go to this, but if you do you HAVE to take kleenex with you. It makes you cry so hard and within the same breathe you are busting a gut laughing. It's that good.

As I was sitting there I was thinking of my own marriage and was so thankful that I had that guy! Don't get me wrong I still hate the fact that he can't seem to put the toilet seat down, but he's the "one" for me. I had a rough ride when it comes to men (those who know me know how true this is), but I wouldn't change a thing. It lead me to TJ. As corny as that might seem it's true. I would have never given him a chance if I wasn't ready to find true love. I must say, I'm glad that I was finally ready! It's been a great ride so far.

First meeting with Social worker Cancelled.

Today was to be our first meeting with our social worker but with the snow storm here made it impossible for us to attend. With luck we were able to get a rescheduled appointment for this saturday. It's a little disapppointing that we didn't get in to see her tonight but at least the wait is not going to be long. I will have to pump myself up all over again...lol

On our attempt to drive to our meeting TJ and I had time to reflect on our thoughts of the whole thing. It was nice to have that time to relax and talk about things that we might not have gone over.....even baby names...lol I believe that we'll do well with our home study, as we are so ready to be parents. We know that our lives will change and bring us into a new direction in life but we so look forward to it.