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Jan 6, 2009

As sad as this might sound...but I'm jealous over a 14 year old girl.

I walked into a salon today to talk to my clients but was taken back by the sight of this 14 year old girl sitting beside me. She was talking on the phone to her friend telling her how cool it was going to be when she had her baby. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. She's just a baby having a baby! She just kept telling her friend that she wanted the top of the line of this and top of that for her baby. That she was going to be the cool mom. Cool???? You are 14 years old having a baby. What's cool about this? I just got so upset sitting there that I had to tell my client that I would be back in a few mins to see her so I could cool off. I went out side and had a power cry in my car before heading back inside. As I sat there I couldn't believe how upsetting it was for me. I was jealous over a 14 year old girl's situation. What is fair in this situation? Please someone explain this to me.

7 comments:

Tammy said...

That is just so not fair. I can totally understand how upsetting that would be for you. For some reason we're put on a different journey to parenthood and have to endure situations like this. I hope you are doing better.

Cath said...

Oh Kelly! I feel for you and I am sorry! :( It makes no sence at all. All I know is that there are two beautiful children somewhere waiting for you and that you and TJ were given the eyes, heart, love and ability to take an adventure that most people don't even contemplate... to save and change lives. Its so hard and your post made me cry because I've often felt the same way. Keep your chin up because it will happen!
We are sending hugs and crossing fingers!
Happy New Year!
Catherine, Jamey and Oksana

Nicole Bellefleur said...

Kelly, I've felt the same way in similar situations... You're not alone.

Carolyn said...

Well I can't say anything to cheer you up- because nothing about this situation is "fair". Why that 14 year old and not you??? No one will ever know. All I can say is that I can relate and that I can feel your pain. I will never understand why anyone has to go through what we are both going through but we just need to carry on and hang in there for our kids sake. I am thinking of you.


Carolyn

Alicia said...

There is no explanation for that... retarded! I do know how you feel though. I left my last job because it just wore me down seeing unwanted/unloved children.
It sounds like this girl is thinking her baby is more of a fashion accessory than a person. That annoys me beyond explanation.


I think our children will be better people because we wanted them so badly and fought so hard to bring them home.
You aren't alone in your thoughts and feelings.
Alicia

Danielle said...

This has happened to me as well quite a few times, it's so hard and you're right, very unfair. This poor child having a child has NO idea, I certainly feel sorry for this little unborn baby.

Jill, Trevor, Kohl, Aliah said...

This post has made my heart ache for you Kel. It is NOT fair.....Nothing about it is fair. I'm sorry you had to go through that ...not just that day...but everyday!

I can't wait till you're a Mom

Jill

 

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