Feb 1, 2009
Having pity in their eyes.......
.....is more then I can bare. When I ask a friend to listen to me vent about how this process is taking a toll on me don't give me the pity look. As I was sitting there letting my feeling out I could see the face coming and it killed me. I should have know that talking to a friend that has no idea what I'm going through would lead to this. I love her for listening and wanting to help, but sometimes things come out of her mouth that you think to yourself WTF? I almost felt that I was talking to a very bad shrink. Sometimes I wish that there was a support group for friends that are dealing with woman that are adopting. Just so they know what to say and not say. I love my friends to death and I wish they could understand how hard this is for me. I know that finding the right words to say can be hard. You don't always have to say something wise just being there is enough.
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Wow Kelly....do I ever know what you mean!!! I have a certain friend, that honestly and truely should never speak sometimes, because they say such inappropriate things that make your head spin.....one would assume common sense is in most people, but definately not in all.
It just hurts more coming from your friends is all.
Chin up girl !
Rachel
Hey Kelly!
I hope you had a great time in Mexico! I know how you are feeling, we had close friends and family members who should just not have said anything at all. If you want to email chat I am always avaliable. It is a very long process to begin with and you both have been waiting for longer than most. I will happen! I hope soon!
Catherine Wishart
cathwishart@yahoo.ca
Hi Kelly
Definately know the feeling, you know us adoptive mom's are all here for you anytime! We are going to try and plan another get togethor soon where more people might be available.
Sarah
I get from one person on a daily "do you ever think of stopping the adoption to try again for a baby of your own"
God, what do you say to that? And the funny thing is, I have told her a million times that my husband and I can have biological babies, this was our choice - our first choice!! What a nut this woman is.
Keep your head up. These people have NO IDEA!!
Hey Kelly!
We met a family here recently who is also adopting from Ethiopia. Though they are looking for one child under age 3. It seems like they too have been waiting what seems like forever and are becoming frustrated with the wait. I hope all is well with you both and that you hear more soon. Do you get updates on your dossier at all from your agency? Hear of other families who have been waiting and finally have a match? It would be incouraging at least if you did. I hope we hear from you soon!
Catherine : )
Kelly, I know how you feel. I get to the point somedays where I wish I never told anyone about the adoption.
The best ones to talk these things out with are those going through it as well. They totally understand.
Have a great weekend.
Hugs
Sherri
Until you've been in this situation, I don't think they will ever know. That's what online friends, blogging and support groups are for to help! It's just a tough pill to swallow when they're eyes start to glaze over cuz they have no idea what this is all about.
I often get....yeah, they have no babies of there own but 1 adopted, I guess she's not our own...slap.
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