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Apr 21, 2010

Feeling sad...

I'm just feeling sad tonight. I was putting things way in the "baby's room" and just took a moment and looked around....looking at all the things I got for our future child. My emotions just took over, and I couldn't stop crying. This time last year I was full of joy of what my future would bring. That this spring there could be a referral for us. There will be no referral for us this spring....or even this year.

That makes me sad.

4 comments:

BCMommy said...

I was just saying that to my hubby. April 28th will be our 1 year referral wait. I really thought, what with having the 0-24 month age range, that we'd have our referral within one year. I thought, actually, we might even have her home by now. This morning, my husband said if he knew then what he knows now, he would never have chosen this route. He says this whole experience has soured him on adoption. He can't understand why money is spent on creating heartwrenching videos depicting the millions of orphans in crisis, and then governments make it so frigging hard to do something about it. Why does it take so long? Why? Why is it so complicated???? I will never understand it. Child needs loving home. Family needs child to love. Join them. Simple.
I am crying right along side you...

Claire

Joy said...

I don't really know how to feel at this point. Staying in the process because I haven't decided whether to go another route...but I do know that two years ago when I basically set up our nursery, I really didn't think we'd still be waiting (and that was even accounting for possible "delays" and "unknowns"). Glad to have this blog community & trusting that we all find strength and peace to continue our journeys.

Cath said...

I'm sorry Kelly. I just finished watching a video on how many Orphans there were in the world and how many people that actually is and my first thought was, Why is it taking so long for these Orphans to find a home then when people desperatly want them. 143,000,000 I really don't understand what the hold up is. I'm sorry for all your wait time and wish there was something we could do.

Sharla said...

I don't know what to say except that I'm sorry. It really shouldn't be so hard just to be parents, just to love a child and to care for a child who needs a family. I do know that it happened for us. We have completed five adoptions in seven years so it is possible. Don't give up hope.

 

Our Timeline

First Adoption

Started the process in Jan/11
Home study approval Mar/11
DTC May 16. 2011
LID June 1, 2011
Referral July 26, 2011
Sent letter of Intent July 28, 2011
PA Aug 4 , 2011
LOA 119 Days....Nov 28, 2011
TA Dec 20, 2011
January we're Parents!

Second Adoption

Started Process Feb/13
Provincial Approval April 26/13

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