We've been wondering if we should increase our ages due to the lack of infant referrals. Just after seeing referral after referral come in for toddlers we wonder if we should be thinking about changing the ages. I just don't want to make a increase then see a bunch of infant referrals come in. I just don't know what to do.
What was it like for those who adopted a toddler?
Kelly
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Hi Kelly,
Even if you increase your age to 0-toddler, the first infant available would come to you if you were next in line. You are still eligible for the infant age, but you'd also be eligible for older. They would not skip you and give an infant to someone higher than you just because your range is bigger. As long as you keep the 0 in there, you are fine!
Claire
You could also state that your preference is for an infant. That way, if an infant and a toddler come in at the same time, you'd receive the infant referral. That's what we've done (for us, we have a preference for children who are slightly older, so we've said that if there's a choice between younger and older sibs, we'd take the older). That may work well...and if you ended up with a toddler, you'd know that it was the best option at that time...and I suspect you'd be thrilled regardless of the age!
All the best - big decision.
BLessings,
Ruth
Just my 2 cents.....stick with what your heart says. Will you be disappointed if you get a referral for a 19 month old vs a 5 month old? Will you be envious when someone gets a tiny baby or happy when someone gets a toddler referral???? Don't change based on timelines, change based on what's best for your family!
Something to think about....
It's a hard decision!
Kelly,
We had both experiences, 10 months and 3 years. Both were wonderful but completely different.
If it works the way BCMommy indicates, I think you're in a win-win situation.
Our three year old was very much like a baby in many ways. She was tiny and needed lots of holding and carrying. She still loves this at 4.5 years old. Many people told me how wonderful older child adoption was ( I realize 3 isn't that old, however it's MUCH different than our experience with a 10 month old) and I have to agree. When you see your baby (not matter how old!) it's absolutely wonderful.
I wish you all thie best in your decision, Kelly. Choosing an age was an agonizing decision for our family, but it turned our perfectly. I wish the same for you.
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